Inter-Service Transfers in the Military

Inter-Service Transfers in the MilitaryInter-Service Transfers in the MilitaryInter-Service Transfers do occur, but they are not as common as you might think. Changing uniforms during your enlistment requires one branch of tafelgeschirr that does not need you and another branch of service that does.It does happen, but you must qualify with certain criteria. Requesting Discharge From Your Current Enlistment Branch If you are in the Delayed Enlistment Program (DEP), you would first have to request a DEP discharge from the branch you are enlisted in, and then apply to join the other service through the other services recruiter.Military recruiters are prohibited by regulation and policy from actively recruiting members of other services DEP. So, to better your chances of making this transfer, you should not be talking to the recruiter of the other service until your DEP discharge is approved. Once one goes on active duty, with the exception of a few commissioned officer specialties ( such as a physician), one cannot simply transfer from one branch of the service to another.You have to complete a Request for Conditional Release from your current branch of service.Though the process exists, the likelihood of your current branch of service releasing you is the hurdle to jump over. Typically, the move from one branch to another requires one to complete their enlistment contract.It may take 4-6 years depending on your time you enlisted.Then you have toget out of the military, and then visit a recruiter to join the different service, as a prior-service recruit. It is by no means a sure thing, as prior-service slots are limited.It is easier to join the military from the street than from the Fleet. Operation Blue to Green (From Navy or AF to the Army) There is a program which will allow members of the Navy and Air Force who are serving in over-manned jobs to request early discharge, in exchange for agreeing to a three-year active duty enlistment in the Army. The nam e of this program is Blue to Green. Under an inter-service agreement, members of the Air Force, Navy, kriegsmarines, and Coast Guard can also request an early discharge to apply for the Army Warrant Officer Program.Many who could not become pilots in their original branch find a home in the Army Warrant Officer program and become pilots of a variety of Army aircraft (helicopters and fixed wing). Additionally, active duty enlisted members can apply for an early discharge if they are accepted into the Officer Candidate School/Officer Training School of another service. Service Academy Inter-Service Transfers Typically on a one to one basis, members of the Air Force Academy, Naval Academy, and West Point can select a job outside of the Academy they graduated from.For instance, there may not be enough pilot slots in the Navy, so requesting an inter-service transfer with the Air Force to obtain pilot school after graduation is possible if there is a member of the Air Force Academy gr aduating class that prefers to join the Navy. For instance, there are typically two or three Air Force Academy and West Point graduates who get selected to attend SEAL training every year. For them to qualify for such a transfer, an equal number of Naval Academy graduates have to pursue Army or Air Force commissions. 148 Watch Now Which Branch of the Military Is Right For You? Beware of the Recruiter Who Says You Can Easily Transfer Some recruiters will tell a young recruit that you can serve in the Army or Marine Corps and then attend (for example) SEAL training after you have gained some experience.The recruiter is not lying. However, you have to complete your four-year enlistment before you can attend another school within a different service.Some schools have a joint charter with all services can attend like Basic Airborne Course in the Army.However, SEAL training requires you have to be in the Navy to attend SEAL training. Receiving an inter-service transfer to attend ad vanced school in other services is not going to happen.If you want to be a Navy SEAL, join the Navy.If you want to be an Army Ranger, join the Army. Do not rely on the rare occurrence of an inter-service transfer.

Can Boredom Inspire a Job Search

Can Boredom Inspire a Job SearchBoredom vs. StressCan Boredom Inspire a Job SearchIts not every daywhen boredom can spur a human being into action. But not having enough work to the point that youre chronically bored and unchallenged is as good a reason to start a job search as being stressed out and overworked is.Recent research by Sirota Survey Intelligence found that too little work can be just as harmful to employee satisfaction as too much work. Feeling overworked a condition that could lead to job erschpfung is far more prevalent than being bored. Yet, both have harmful effects on employees and their companies, said Sirota president Douglas Klein.He points to these numbers from the survey on the attitudes of bored workersJob satisfaction 81% of employees with about the right amount of work are satisfied with their jobs, compared with just 50% of those with too little work.Challenging work 71% of employees with about the right amount of work find their jobs challenging for t he bored group a paltry 22%.Utilization of skills and abilities 74% of workers with about the right amount of work believe their jobs make good use of their skills, more than twice the percentage of the bored group (36%).Feeling of personal accomplishment 73% of workers with about the right amount of work feel a sense of accomplishment from their jobs, nearly twice as much as the group with too little work (38%).

Too hot to sleep Heres how to keep cool in bed

Too hot to sleep Heres how to keep cool in bedToo hot to sleep Heres how to keep cool in bedYur body temperature plays a pivotal role in your sleep cycle, but all too often many sleepers wake up feeling hot, sweaty and sticking to the sheets.Does this sound like you? Do you often feel as though your body temperature isnt settling? Does your sleep constantly get disrupted because youre simply too hot?Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreWell youre not alone. Many things can cause our body temperature to fluctuate, from the weather, to what weve been doing physically throughout the day. When our body temperature persistently rises, restless nights will follow, but luckily there are steps you can take to keep cool, calm and relaxed in bed.Tweak your bedroom temperatureOf course the room youre actually sleeping in can seriously affect your night, especially if you happen to be a hot slee per. So firstly you should make sure your sleep space is as comfortably cool as possible.Leave any windows slightly cracked open throughout the night as this will help to maximize airflow. If possible, leave your attic window slightly open too, as this will give all that hot air somewhere to go.You want to be sure to turn off any of your gadgets and gizmos before bed time. Any electronics give off heat, so shutting them down will help to lower the temperature a little. Also, if its been a particularly warm sunny day, sometimes it helps to keep any blinds in your bedroom shut. The daytime heat will be kept at bay, which will prevent the room temperature from rising.Keep cool before bedEven before you go anywhere near your bed, its important to better regulate your body temperature throughout the day. One of the best things you can do is to avoid eating later in the evening. If you consume some food late in the day, this triggers your metabolism to start working overtime, which increa ses your body temperature. You can avoid this be opting to eat a lighter meal earlier on if you can.If your body doesnt have enough variabel to sweat, it cant effectively regulate its core temperature. This is why keeping yourself well hydrated is hugely important. Make sure you have a glass of water by your bed just in case. Water is a great cooling agent, so taking a shower or bath before bed can also help, just make sure the water isnt too hot.Many of us like to exercise regularly, and this can actually be really beneficial for your sleep. However, you should stop exercising late in the evening, as this makes it difficult for your body to completely cool down before bed.Your mattress makes a difference, tooAll to often the biggest culprit of hot sleepless nights is your mattress itself. It could be too thick, or filled with synthetic fibers that hold onto heat longer than youd like. Even memory foam mattresses are made with materials that actually heat you up, leaving you feeling increasingly uncomfortable if youre already a hot sleeper.In order to grab some soothing shuteye as a hot sleeper, you need to opt for anatural fiber mattress. Youll need materials that allow for a cooler sleep surface by allowing for better air circulation.One of the biggest benefits of natural fibers is their breathability. Fibers such asWool, Bamboo and Alpaca are extremely efficient at allowing air to circulate between you and the mattress, whilst also wicking any moisture away from your body. This all works wonders for keeping your body cool and comforted at night, leaving you to gently drift off into your dreams.This article originally appeared on Your Coffee Break.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 hab its of mentally strong people

8 Dumbass Interview Mistakes New Grads Make

8 Dumbass Interview Mistakes New Grads MakeInterview Mistakes New Grads Make8 Dumbass Interview Mistakes New Grads MakeThis post originally ran on October 23, 2008, but the mistakes havent changed much, so here it is again. Just so you know, the dumbass label is meant affectionatelyits really just a matter of inexperience. Hopefully, reading about other peoples mistakes will help you avoid making dumbass moves of your own in your first few job interviews Good luckIn a recent CareerBuilder poll, more than 3,000 hiring managers and HR professionals were asked to identify the biggest mistakes new college graduates make during the application and interview process. Based on the percentage of respondents who gave each answer, behauptung are the top 8 dumbass moves among new grads (not to mention a few other age groups...ahem).Acting bored or cocky (69%)This sounds familiar. We had someone interviewing at recently who seemed pretty good, but two or three people used the word cocky to descr ibe the persons attitude. (Our managers, like those at many companies, solicit opinions from everybody who comes in contact with a job candidate, not just those in the interview room hint, hint.) If youre a new grad, its important to realize that you may have been the coolest kid on campus a few months ago, but today youre an unproven beginner. A positive, respectful attitude is one way to set yourself apart. Confident = good. Cocky = bad.Not dressing appropriately (65%)Your interview attire, like your attitude, says a lot about whether youre serious about proving yourself, or just think youre entitled to the job because youre you. Your clothing should be clean, pressed, and modest. As they say in middle school, no visible boxers, bellies, or boobs.Coming to the interview with no knowledge of the company (59%)Theres no excuse for not researching an organization thats considering hiring you. They have a web site use it to learn what they do, who they are, what they specialize in. Go ogle the executives names (after all, theyll be Googling you see 8, below).Not turning off cell phones or electronic devices (57%)Frankly, Im surprised this isnt No. 1. If you accidentally leave your phone on and it rings during the interview, dont get flustered and start babbling, OMG, I cant believe I did that Offer a brief, sincere apology, turn off the phone (without checking who it is), then carry on professionally as if nothing happened.Not asking good questions during the interview (50%)If you dont ask anything, you must not be interested. Thats what the hiring manager will assume. This is a place where you supposedly want to spend fruchtwein of your waking hours for the next couple years or more. You must want to know something. Besides, there are certain questions you should always ask. Asking what the pay is before the company considered them for the job (39%)Mentioning salary in a first interview is like asking your crush what s/he plans to spend on you during your relati onshipbefore youve even agreed on a second date. You have to flirt and make sure theyre attracted to you before you ask about a financial commitment. (No, not literally Thatd be a whole other dumbass move.)Spamming employers with the same resume and/or cover letter (23%)This guy John really, really wants to work for Company A, so he applies for every job opening Company A posts, whether hes qualified or not. Annoyed by Johns never-ending resume spam, Company As recruiters unofficially blacklist him (although if asked, theyll deny it). Dont be like John. Tailor your resume for the one or two jobs at your target company that align with your skills.Failure to remove unprofessional photos/content from social networking pages, Web pages, blogs, etc. (20%)Dude, you will be Googled. Employers today use every means at their disposal to uncover red flags that might foretell a bad hire. So, hide all Internet evidence of your past (and present) indiscretions.The transition from college to the real world is tough, and our mistakes are good teachers. Committing one of these eight blunders doesnt mean youre doomed, nor does avoiding them guarantee youll get the job. But generally speaking, its fair to say less dumbass leads to more job offers.

5 surprising reasons you need to listen to your anger

5 surprising reasons you need to listen to yur anger5 surprising reasons you need to listen to your angerI sat and listened to an elderly couple tell me how theyd been approached by a financial advisor who persuaded them to invest their life savings in a Ponzi scheme guaranteed to produce a 50% return on investment within 6 months. I was the FBI agent they contacted when they could no longer reach the financial advisor to retrieve their money. The financial advisor was a scam artist who had emptied the elderly couples bank account.I was angry and my investigation soon morphed into a personal vendetta against the man. The scam artist was eventually caught, in another state, so I didnt have the satisfaction of slapping handcuffs on the bast*rd myself. Alas, all the money he had stolen was gone and I was left with the sad job of informing the elderly couple that their life savings were gone and couldnt be recovered. Yes, I was angry.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moraAs Federal law enforcement, FBI agents are expected to control emotions as they conduct investigations in a fair and efficient manner. Often, its impossible to look the victim of a crime in the face and not feel anger toward the person who caused the pain.How many times have you heard,Every time you get angry, you poison your own system. This thinking is akin to putting a bandaid on cancer. It doesnt create the deep healing thats needed when we feel anger, frustration, or envy.Yes, these are negative emotions but the real herausforderung isnt that we experience them. The real problem rears its ugly head when were taught to suppress or avoid them at all cost.What if anger is good for you? Remember, it surfaces for a reason. Here are 5 surprising reasons you need to listen to your anger1. Anger can give you balanceBalance in our personal and professional life provides a perspective that can help us ma ke better decisions. It enables us to see the entire map so we can see where weve been as well as where we hope to go in the future.The saatkorn is true of emotional balance. The ability to suppress our anger is not a sign we are emotionally healthy. We can pretend that all is good but that does nothing more than keep an emotion from getting out. And guess what? When you fight a feeling, it only gets stronger.Research showsthat bereaved people who make the most effort to avoid feeling grief or anger take the longest to recover from their loss.When we suppress or avoid a negative emotion like anger, our ability to experience positive feelings also goes down. Stress soars and our amygdala, a part of the brain associated with emotions, begins to work overtime.Research in emotional regulation byneuroscientist Matthew Lieberman at UCLAshows that when we put negative feelings into words, our amygdala calms down. People who openly express their feelings are healthier than those who suppres s emotions like anger.How To Make It Work For You Talk your situation over with a friend. The more you express your anger in words, the calmer you will become. Or, write it down in a journal if you prefer. The essential point is this when you put your anger into words, either verbal or written, its therapeutic. Remember to notice when the venting is always about the same topic. At that point, you need to delve deeper into the real problem behind your anger.2. Anger is meant to make us feel uncomfortableWe live in a society driven by the pleasure principlethere is such an emphasis on positivity that we are unequipped to deal with the other half of our emotional spectrum. If theres a feeling we dont like, we try to get rid of it or pretend it doesnt exist.Our continual pursuit of empty happiness cliches seldom register anything more than a temporary bleep, and then quickly fade away.Anger makes us uncomfortable and thats a good thing because it gets our attention. An emotion like ange r requires us to sit up and pay attention if we hope to get to the root of it. To fully experience and tap into the wisdom of our emotions, we must learn how to experience discomfort. Without discomfort, there is no change and no growth.Research shows that people who prefer to feel useful emotions, even when they are unpleasant, are better able to use them in ways that are strategic. People who prefer to feel anger when confronting others tend to be higher in emotional intelligence, whereas people who prefer to feel happiness in such contexts tend to be lower in emotional intelligence.Negative Emotions + Positive Emotions = Emotional CompetenceHow To Make It Work For YouMental toughnessallows us to tap into the wisdom of our emotions. Our limbic brain system alerts us to danger in our environment. If we choke off all negative emotions, we also suppress a primal survival tool that has alerted us to threats in our environment for centuries. All emotions can be useful the key is to reg ulate them so you can choose the situations which are more beneficial to you.3. Anger helps you discover your boundariesAre there situations or people that always twist your stomach into a knot? Me too.I was early for a supervisors conference and took a seat then Earl showed up and sat down beside me. I was angry. Earl followed me around like a puppy dog. If I told him to get lost, it would create a very unpleasant environment. On the other hand, I knew my anger would only increase if I sat beside him for the entire two-hour conference.Earl had crossed acceptable boundaries so I decided to modify my situation- I got up, excused myself, and left the room. I chatted with people in the hallway for five minutes and I came back in. Sure enough, someone else had taken my seat next to Earl and I found another one across the room.Recent researchsuggests that people who do not take steps to modify their situation only compound their problems. If they learn how to reframe their circumstances, they are better able to control their anger and other negative emotions.When you imagine an event as though youre a bystander, you will notice that you harbor fewer aggressive and negative emotionsHow To Make It Work For You Its not always possible to turn away from disturbing or unfavorable situations. Some events- the loss of your job, the death of a partner, or an unexpected illness- are not controllable.Studies have foundthat people can cope with unwanted emotions if they imagine the situation as an impartial observer. Find ways to modify your response- so you can control your anger before it spills out and make matters worse.4. Anger can motivate usAre you angry because you got passed over a aufsteigen? Use that anger to propel you toward a job that will provide more rewards. Are you angry because theres income inequality in this country? Let that anger motivate you to become more involved in local government.Anger is an interesting emotion. While its a negative feeling,neuros cientists have discoveredthat it arouses cognitive and behavior responses that are often positive. Anger can motivate a response normally associated with positive behavior.If we look at anger like any other emotion, we can finds ways to anticipate its arrival and chose how long it hangs around. Consider a positive emotion like joy if we excavate our own mind and body, we know what will produce joy for us. We create circumstances that will encourage or enhance our experience. We anticipate its arrival so were not surprised when it shows up.If weve done our homework, we can find ways to anticipate the arrival of anger and chose how long it should hang around as well.How To Make It Work For You When it comes to anger, its important to explore in the depths of your mind to uncover what provoked it. The exploration of your anger requires as much honesty and self-awareness as it takes to explore what brings you joy. Both emotions, and your response to them, work hand in hand to form a hea lthy and mature connections.5. Anger can strengthen relationshipsMost psychologists and therapists would agree that conflicts and disagreements allow you to learn more about your partner, spouse, child, friend, or associate. Equality in relationships means you work through tough things together. It allows you to see things from the other persons point of viewWhen youre afraid of showing your anger, you signal that youre not willing to honestly admit your emotions. As a result, you stay away from people or experiences that might conjure up all unwanted emotions.Neuroscientist Richard Davidsonobserves that anger can rise within a matter of seconds. We need to acknowledge the anger we feel, and then find a way to let it naturally dissipate. If you get angry, ask yourself why you feel that way. Once you can find the source of your anger, you can turn it into something positive. Its important to sit with your anger and listen to it. If you quit because it makes you uncomfortable, youll n ever excavate the origin of your emotion.On the other hand, you need to control your anger so it doesnt control you. Dont let anger turn into rage that leads to destructive behavior.When we let our emotions take control, we become a victim of our circumstances- LaRae QuyHow To Make It Work For You Its never a good idea to vent your anger. According to theHandbook of Emotion Regulation, venting anger doesnt reduce it venting intensifies the emotion so that your anger begins to snowball. Instead, share your feelings with others in a constructive way.This article originally appeared on LaRae Quy.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

Finding the Best Tech Resume Examples

Finding the Best Tech Resume Examples Tech Resume Examples Ideas Our resume builder provides you with tips and examples on the best way to compose your resume summary. Work aspirants ought to watch out for a resume template instead of a training course load vitae template. The expert experience section of our how to compose a resume guide is another great resource should you feel that you still need more help. When youre prepared to compose your own resume, make certain to take a peek at our veterinary technician resume example below. Licensing requirements vary by state so its most effective to inquire or research first so that you will be aware of what sort of training program or apprenticeship is suitable. Ensure you list the equipment you are feeling comfortable with and for which youve received proper training. Particularly if youre self-employed and writing an independent computer technician resume. So for the very first time the distinctive small geschftsleben card made its physical appearance. As business card printing has developed, so has the selection of designs that may be included, but the fundamental principle is the exact same. The plan of your company card is just limited by your imagination. Try out square cards for your next printing job and you will certainly be satisfied. The work description is a good place to begin, particularly for the technical skills. Below, you will locate a list of resume examples that may aid you with your work search. The more prepared you are for the job which you want, the simpler it is going to be to find it. Your resume presents a special chance to demonstrate exactly how valuable you are to prospective employers. A Secret Weapon for Tech Resume Examples If youre thinking about how to create a resume, youre in the correct spot Once youve reviewed resumes in your field, peruse resumes across fields to know how to vary using action verbs and receive a feel for what makes an effective accompl ishment statement. The Most Popular Tech Resume Examples The further skills section is the ideal place to incorporate such a basic, but essential skills. At this time the cannabis business is growing at an astronomical speed, new jobs are being created every single day, and there are an infinite number of individuals attempting to break in the area. A great deal of times there are particular abilities or knowledge that pharmacists want in a candidate that are tough to include in different components of your resume. The resume must include a sample or two of the achievements so the employers get a notion about the aspirant. A Professional Summary is a short statement highlighting all the best things about you in connection with the form of job you are searching for. Best customer care A nail technician isnt only accountable for giving the client an amazing set of nail, but additionally for the experience they supply during performing the true work. Seeking to use long histor y of excellent customer assistance, together with advanced pharmaceutical wisdom and training to satisfy the role at your pharmacy. Very good communication is critical to spot and fulfill the customers needs correctly, particularly in the event of designing a new heating or cooling installation. Your final purpose then is to make a resume that makes yourself stick out from the crowd. The only thing you ought to be cautious of is the space you use. Moreover, do not forget that the space on your resume is limited so even in case you have far more, do your best not to list more than three important responsibilities. Ultimately, the guideline is that the Education section shrinks as you obtain experience. Expectations of the Job Whether you apply to a greater repair business or a more compact one can create a difference in the way you wish to compose your resume. To read more on the subject of tech resumes (in addition to cover letters and the way to locate a job in the tech in dustry), have a look at the Vault Career Guide to the world wide web and Social Media. Notice how the example resumes are extremely specific when it has to do with technical skills.

4 Speech Patterns That Can Diminish a Woman#8217;s Credibility at Work

4 Speech Patterns That Can Diminish a Woman8217s Credibility at Work PerceptionsThey form quickly and set like cement.Unfortunately, other peoples perceptions of us often form in our blind spots. It is hard to really know just how we are coming across to others. You may think you are just having a casual conversation or making a post on social media, but people are forming opinions about you instantly based on what you say or write.Relationshipscan be formed or broken over words spoken. Countries can be split or united. Business covenants are made (or broken) in meetings and contracts.As women, we are often unable to see how the words we use on a daily basis in the office can affect peoples perceptions of us.Here are four small ways women discredit themselves over and over again without even realizing it.1. ApologizingConstantlyIm sorry. Im sorry. But what are you sorry about? Constant apologizing can be the kiss of death for a women in the office. U nless you stepped on someones foot, there is no reason to be sorry.2. Asking Questions When You Know the Answers Often, when women end their sentences as if they werequestions on purpose to keep the dialogue going. This is called upspeak.Silence is powerful. Be okay with sitting in the silence, especially at meetings. If you know you tend to talk too much when you get nervous, focus on your breath. Feel your chest rise and fall. Disengage the wild thoughts and the compulsion.3. Wishy-Washy SpeakNothing on earth discredits a women especially with a man in a meeting mora than words like perhaps, just, actually, maybe, a little bit, etc.Be definite in your speech. You are not a little bit concerned aboutyour disruptive employee. You are concerned.This isbusiness. No one in the room feels comfortable with maybe or a little bit of anything. Be firm. Be definite. Have an opinion. Its okay.4. Fear of Being a WomanIve been asked many times if Ive had to act more like a man to get ahead in business.Never. This isnt about changing who you are or asking you to shelf yoursensitivity, compassion, and collaborative spirit. Find your voice and style. Women can be very powerful without coming off asauthoritarian.Heres what it boils down to at work Like it or not, men rule the business world still. If that werent true, wed see more than five percent of SP 500 CEO roles belonging to women.There is a game that is being played in the office. Know that there is a game and figure out the rules. Once you know the game, you can play it successfully.A version of this article originally appeared in Plaid for Women.Elizabeth Lions is an executive career coach. You can learn more atElizabethLions.com.

Poll Americans have very different definitions of sexual harassment at work

Poll Americans have very different definitions of sexual harassment at workPoll Americans have very different definitions of sexual harassment at workFollowing the allegations of sexual harassment and assault from Hollywood producer Harvey Weinstein, the topic of workplace harassment has jumped into mainstream conversation, prompting victims to come forward and men in power to lose their jobs as a result. But just because many of us are talking about sexual harassment now doesnt mean that we are talking about the same thing.According to a new poll from Reuters/Ipsos, Americans hold startling differences of opinion about what exactly constitutes sexual harassment.Broad agreement that intentional groping is bad, differences about nonconsensual huggingIn the Reuters/Ipsos poll of 3,000 adult Americans this December, the majority of respondents agreed that intentional groping or kissing without your consent was sexual harassment.But Americans were sharply divided as to whether other form s of nonconsensual touch should cause a menschenwrdig resources complaint.Forty four percent of respondents said that hugging someone without their consent was sexual harassment, but forty percent said it was not. This finding suggests that nearly half of us are going to work thinking that unwanted, forced hugs could be in the realm of appropriate workplace behavior.Dirty jokes and unwanted compliments about your appearance were also seen as murky areas of workplace harassment for almost half of participants, with 44% of adults saying that dirty jokes werent a form of sexual harassment and 47% saying that your coworkers unwanted commentary about your body didnt necessarily equal sexual harassment.Gender, race, and generational differencesThe definition of harassment also varied across gender, race, and generational lines. Nineteen percentof men said that touching someone intentionally without their consent was not sexual harassment only 11% of women said the same.While more than hal f of people of color agreed that an unwanted hug was sexual harassment, only 39% of white people reported the same sentiment.Attitudes about harassment also shifted across generations. Sending a pornographic picture to someone without their consent was overwhelmingly considered sexual harassment by Baby Boomers and Gen-Xers, while millennials were the demographic least likely to call it sexual harassment.What employers need to doThis research shows us that our coworkers may hold widely differing beliefs about appropriate workplace behavior. Is an unwanted hug actually sexual harassment? The law is broad here. TheU.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, which federally enforces workplace discrimination, explicitly defines sexual harassment as unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature.When employees differ and laws lack clarity, its up to employers be the referee with explicit guidelines and standards about h ow employees can interact with one another.Suzanne Goldberg, director of the Center for Gender and Sexuality Law at Columbia Law School told Reuters that the onus is on employers to tischset the tone even if the co-workers dont object or go to management to complain.To make the workplace a safe environment for every employee, in other words, employers need to be proactive with over-communicating what employees can and cannot do.

Yes, you can recover from depression. I know because I did

Yes, you can recover from depression. I know because I didYes, you can recover from depression. I know because I didFor about 10 years following my initialdiagnosis of depression, I was mired in a cycle of sadness and the unbridled, reckless actions that helped me cope with what I was feeling.Some of my impulsive tendencies could be blamed on my young age (I was 13 when I was first diagnosed), but I learned the hard way that the habits you develop early- especially the ones disguised as coping mechanisms- can easily become perennial. For years, I felt like my mental illness and my identity were one in the same, that aelendher person couldntreallyknowme unless they knew about the things I was going through, or had been through. If you asked 20-year-old me to tell you about who I was, my mental illness would be at the forefront of my answer. But today, at 26, my answer is different.Whilemy past experiences inform my perspective on the world, I amnotdepressed. And saying so is a radical act, because for a decade, I wasnt sure if those words would ever be true. The idea of fully recovering from mental illness is one we dont hear about often, but its one thats deeply important to discuss.Part of recovering from a mental illness is learning to understand what it is, and Ive come to understand that my depression was a lot like a physical illness, like having a cold. When you have a cold, there are symptoms- a runny nose, lethargy, sometimes a fever. Healthy bodies are able to fight off the cold with some rest and TLC, but there are other bodies that for whatever reason are unable to get better without mora help. Their symptoms may take on a life of their own, and in extreme cases, can become dire.I was the body incapable of fighting off the cold, the body that struggled to cope with what life threw at her. So as a means of staying afloat, I developed symptoms - like self-harming in high school and an eating disorder in college- that temporarily anesthetized my pain. Without them, Id be left alone to confront the roots of my depression, which was a more frightening and difficult prospect than dealing with the behaviors layered on top of it. But eventually (and if were being honest, only after something deeply important was taken from me), I found the mindset required to heal.My grandmother had always dreamed of taking me to Paris. We finally booked the trip for April of my sophomore year of college, but April came, and the doctor who was treating me for bulimia recommended that we cancel because it would be too dangerous for me to go. Having to cancel our trip broke my grandmothers heart. And it was grueling for me to see how my illness was affecting the people I love. The silver lining is that I realized I wanted to value my life and the lives of the people I cared about. And doing so meant I needed to get my actions under control.With the help of my therapist, I regained control of how I responded to my feelings. This was a key revelation for me - the notion that Id never be able to control my feelings, but I could control how I responded to and worked through them. I started to take my medication consistently (this may seem obvious, but when I was depressed, I tried to sabotage myself by skipping days of my meds, which I never really saw as self-sabotage until my therapist said to me, You dont skip days of your birth control, do you?). I went to therapy four times a week for three years, without exception. If I had to miss a session one week, Id make it up the next, meaning there were some weeks where Id go to therapy literally every day. Being committed to my healing meant having to make incredibly hard and confusing choices, ones that felt selfishandselfless simultaneously, like the summer I chose to stay in Ann Arbor by myself instead of going home to my family in Boston so that I could continue my treatment. It meant having to talk about things that made me cry, like my relationship with my dad, or talking about thi ngs that made me feel uncomfortable, like sleeping with someone I shouldnt have.But in doing those things, in taking my recovery seriously and putting it above all else, Ihealed.And because I know firsthand what an accomplishment it is to commit to and then maintain recovery, I cant help but notice the lack of coverage about people whothrive after getting help for a mental illness.In a recentarticleinPerspectives on Psychological Science, psychologists at University of South Florida and George Mason University write about the curious neglect of high functioning after psychopathology- specifically, depression. For all the existing research on depression, theres not much out there about how common it is to thrive after treatment. Although researchers sometimes follow people through their recovery, the authors note that its often only for a short while. We know little about what happens next, particularly to those with who have a sustained recovery that is accompanied by good functioni ng, they write.I agree. And I strongly believe that if those who are in a position to talk about mental health (doctors, psychologists, publishers, celebrities or regular individuals with personal experiences to share) were to talk about how they sustained recovery, it could be the impetus that gets people to commit to their own. If stories of healing were shared more often and in more detail, those suffering would know its possible to recover, while also having realistic expectations of what it may take to get there.Today, Ive been off my medication for two years and havent been to therapy in three, though Ive been considering going back- not because I needit, but because I miss the aspect of self-discovery. And I celebrate my happiness often, as I believe I should. I celebrate with loved ones when they tell me how proud they are of me and how wonderful I look (like many others with mental illness, mine was visible and worn all over my body). And then there are the subtle, more pri vate celebrations, where Im alone or resting with my partner and my happiness moves me to tears. These are tears of astonishment that I actuallylive the life I live that I havent missed an obligation or a deadline since college (Id oversleep and miss classallthe time), that when I start to encounter what would have previously been intolerable feelings, I tolerate them, without harming myself that Ive found a partner who cares for me as much as Ive learned to care for myself- one who doesnt try to fix me, but to better understand me. I cry because for years, I never thought Id experience anything close to what I do now.If youre reading this, wondering like I once did if your life is ever going to get better, I want you to know that it can. Its not the same for everyone. Healing is a process, sometimes a lifelong one. Your healing may feel uncomfortable and inconvenient and at times unbearable, but I want you to know its worth it. Put in the work. Because you, like me, may land at a p lace where you feel healed. Where you cry happy tears about the way you feel right now, and what you feel is glorious.This article first appeared on Thrive Global.

Youre invited! Great. Now what Dealing with summer soirees

Youre invited Great. Now what Dealing with summer soireesYoure invited Great. Now what Dealing with summer soireesWork, weddings, barbecues and other summer soirees the invitations seem to come in fast and furious this time of year. So, do you have to attend just because youre invited? And more than that, do you have to bring a gesundheitsgefhrdender stoff or give a speech? And while were at it, when can you beg off?Summer is a time to unwind and relax unless every waking free moment is filled with an obligation says Matt Eventoff owner of Princeton Public Speaking. If youre feeling a bit overwhelmed by all the invitations (popularity is such a curse) Eventoff says Everything we do sends a message. Everything.So, the question is - what message are you sending? Its okay to be picky when choosing where to go or what to do, but you dont want to be stand-offish. Its also okay to show up for a short while before begging off. The best plan though is to have a plan and stick to it so you l ook thoughtful and not flaky.Bring a gift or make a donationThe reason work darbietungs - even weddings or birthday celebrations - can feel so tricky is because youre socializing, but as your work persona. Eventoff says If you are personally invited and cant attend, sending a gift certainly sends a positive message.You can also go the safe route and donate to a cause they believe in or have tried to raise money for in the past. Making a donation in someones name is always appreciated, sends a great message, and most importantly helps a cause that helps many others (and has the side effect of making the person who donates feel great) said Eventoff.But if you dont know the persons preferences or politics, take care when choosing a cause to donate to, you dont want to offend the guest of honor by donating to something they despise or dont believe in.Just say noIf you cant go, its really okay, just dont pretend otherwise. For anyone that has ever hosted an event, the unpredictable sur prise - I said I would be there and now I wont be Can cause a lot of stress for the host, says Eventoff. At the same time, many people feel uncomfortable or awkward responding no, or think there is a chance they will go so they just respond yes. As a host, I am appreciative of a prompt not attending - it makes life easier as it eliminates the guessing game and the inability to prepare properly.Dont go under duressIf you really dont want to go, just stay home. Everyone knows if youre suffering and it doesnt endear you to your hosts or fellow guests. As Eventoff reminds us, It is often better not to attend than to attend begrudgingly and not send the warmest signals to everyone else in attendance.It is often apparent to tell when someone is at an event strictly out of feeling obligated to attend - it shows in nonverbal communication (as well as verbal - tone, etc.).Offer to co-host or helpIf you really are an awful guest, consider offering to help platzdeckchen up or greet guests or otherwise prove yourself invaluable. And dont worry about being perceived as pushy, unless theyre a socialite cum professional party planner on par with Pippa Middleton, chances are good they can always use an extra set of hands.If its a close colleague, team member or client, reframing the invitation as an opportunity to support the host rather than as an obligation or burden can change how to approach the situation, says Eventoff.Accept graciously and tell them from the onset that youre happy to help with anything from unruly guests to making sure everyone has a drink.Dont reciprocate unless you can afford to or really want toJust because your boss invited everyone to a backyard barbecue at her swanky Hamptons cottage doesnt mean you have to even remotely try to do the same. Even if your salary matched, youre not trying to top anyone. Not everyone is a born host or entertainer and trying to force yourself to be the host with the most when youre a couch potato only ensures every one on the guest list will be miserable.One last thing If youre the host, be mindful of your guest list. Monica Lewinsky was recently disinvited from an event because Bill Clinton accepted an invitation. If you think your guests wont play nice together, cull the list in advance so you dont end up looking rude and clueless.